I have started reading Wild at Heart by John Eldredge and will be posting a review in the next week or so, but wanted to share a little epiphany I had. One of the points the author makes is that a man's heart (and a boy's heart) longs for adventure. I have known this for a while with my son...if I make a task or trip into an adventure, he is usually on board--fully engaged. But what about those other times when he refuses to get with the program...why isn't he jumping in head first? My epiphany today was this: the ultimate adventure for a three year old is defending his desire for independence from the ultimate authority in his life: mom and dad! It is him against the world! A fight to the bitter end!
So, how do I foster that sense of adventure and need for battle without raising a hoodlum? How do I teach him honor and respect without crushing him at the same time??
Here is the part of the post where I give the answers....well, I am sorry to disappoint, but I don't have them. Hopefully just being aware of his needs will allow me to respond in the right way.
My friend Erin has started the Moms of Boys Society where mothers of boys can encourage each other in how to raise our boys. We don't need to weed out all of their boyishness...we need to embrace it and see how it will make them into wonderful men when they are grown. Raising boys is an adventure...with God's help, I am jumping in!